DIY at-home Boudoir selfie shoot

March 08, 2022  •  Leave a Comment

I will fully admit this is the kind of post that is useless without pictures. But luckily, I have practiced this for years. And while I will admit, it does have it's hurdles compared to experiencing an actual shoot with someone else behind the camera. They are super fun to take. So, if you’re interested in taking DIY pictures, here are some tips on how to take a boudoir selfie. These are all actually me!

If you have ever tried and failed, at DIY boudoir photography, then this guide on how to take a boudoir selfie is for you. Sharing a few of our favorite mindset shifts, poses and lighting suggestions so that you can make some of your own gorgeous boudoir selfies.?

Of course, I wouldn't steer you away from doing a professional boudoir experience, but if you aren't comfortable yet having someone else take your boudoir photos, here's how to take things into your own hands and make a gorgeous boudoir selfie.

Tips on How to Take a Boudoir Selfie


It all starts by getting in the right mood. When you are feeling good – your images will capture that. Ever wondered how to do boudoir photography yourself?? Here's where to begin!



Stand tall. Take four deep breaths. You got this. One of our mantras here is that the best thing you can wear is confidence. Play some music to get you in the mood and movin'. I like playing songs that make me feel like a badass (lol) for instance Rhianna S&M or Pussy Cat Dolls - Buttons.


Have compassion for yourself. Taking a boudoir selfie (and potentially sharing it!) takes courage. Remember that you are a whole, beautiful person. Love yourself for trying this.


This should be fun. It's ok to enjoy it! Boudoir selfies are not a time to be serious – it’s a time to have fun. It’s time to play. And remind yourself that laughter is totally sexy.


Don’t fixate on what doesn’t work or look good. Edit as you go. Delete the terrible ones. No one needs to see them. Focus on the good ones and keep the gems. Professional photographers work on lighting, angles, wardrobe to get it right and even though we are professionals, it doesn’t always happen the way we want it for the first time. If the angle or lighting isn't working – let that shot go for now and move on to the next one.


Learning how to take a boudoir selfie isn't only about your inner attitude, it's about the place where you are shooting. Who hasn't held up their phone at arm’s length and taken a few from bed? And the ever classic bathroom mirror? Boudoir selfies can be taken anywhere, you can get out of the bathroom and your bed!


Photography is literally nothing without light. And everything looks better with good light. How do you find that sweet light? Window light is usually a good place to start. You can stand facing the light for even and flat lighting. You can stand with the window light to your side which will show more definition and shadows. You can stand with the window light to your back and try a silhouette. They all have their benefits. Try shooting in each one to see which you like best.


Where are you? What are you doing? What else is there? You can create a little narrative in your boudoir selfie to make it more interesting. Or at least check the background for things that are not flattering (mine was always a cluttered side table, lol).


You can use your actual camera, of course, but a phone is perfect for doing boudoir photography yourself – The front-facing cameras on most of our phones are set to wide-angle – which is not the best for taking portraits when you can only hold the camera at arm’s length from your face. But it is awesome for checking out lighting and finding the right place to position yourself and the camera. Self-timers are a selfie portraits best friend!

Give yourself some room to play. Don't let your arm length limit the variety of images you can get! Flip your phone to the front-facing camera, prop it up on a chair/ladder/windowsill and put on the 3 or 10-second timer.

Or another option is to set your camera to video. Take a video as you move through your poses, then go back and watch your video, screen shooting the moment you nail the pose!


The best boudoir photos don't look like you are trying too hard. They look natural and real – which is what makes them sensual and amazing! That is why I suggest starting with the mindsets above. Feeling grounded and alive and fully in your body is the place to start. Find the light and the scene and then you add motion and bring the energy.??

When you're in the studio, you'll go over all of this step by step. You can start out with these tips and practice at home with your own boudoir selfie before you have a session with me.


  • Exaggerate Your Curves Start by moving around and exaggerate the curves of your body.
  • Create asymmetry in your body You can this by shifting your weight back and forth. Activate your hands by running your fingertips along your body – one hand runs up along your body while the one runs down and then reverse. Touch your skin gently.
  • Position Your Chin Use the camera to see the difference between keeping your chin up or bring it down and looking out from under your brow – which one looks better??
  • Rotate your shoulders Move your shoulders forward to show more of your clavicle. Then bring that shoulder forward and your chin around to almost touch it creates a beautiful space by your neck.
  • Play with your hair Use your fingers (they are like little arrows pointing to what you want people to look at!) to bring attention to your face, your neckline, your collarbones, your cleavage – any place on your body that you want someone to notice. Keep your fingertips soft and moving – you can trace circles on your skin.
  • Don't forget to breathe Breathe brings life into the images.
  • Laugh Anytime you feel like laughing – laugh!
  • oh and don't forget your face!

We keep tension in our faces. Often when we see pictures of ourselves that we hate – it goes back to us not wanting the picture taken and holding tension about that right here in our faces. So, your mindset matters. Relax your mouth. Relax your jaw. Relax your brows. Focus your eyes. If your face looks tense, go back to some deep breathing and then release any leftover tension by laughing! And take that boudoir selfie!

If you are someone who is ready to feel sexy at your own boudoir experience, reach out to my Luxurious Fairfield, PA Boudoir Studio and schedule a FREE consult call.


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